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Hire Different

August 2, 2013

Most humans make judgments about people based on how they look. I have. Think about how many friendships, even relationships, or great employees you’ve missed out on because someone’s physical appearance didn’t meet your “standards,” or that they were simply “different.” Maybe they were too dark, too fat, didn’t have a symmetrical enough face, or had tattoos or earrings or facial hair you didn’t like. Did you make a judgment, and then not:

  • Talk to them?
  • Engage them?
  • Hire them?

A recent viral video features actor Dustin Hoffman talking about his gender transformation for “Tootsie” when he realized the female “Dorothy” he became wasn’t attractive enough by his own standards:

“It was at that moment I had an epiphany, and I went home and started crying. Talking to my wife, I said I have to make this picture, and she said, ‘Why?’ And I said, ‘Because I think I am an interesting woman when I look at myself on screen. And I know that if I met myself at a party, I would never talk to that character because she doesn’t fulfill — physically — the demands that we’re brought up to think women have to have in order to ask them out.’

“There’s too many interesting women I have not had the experience to know in this life because I have been brainwashed.”

How many interesting people or great employees have you missed out on because of your physical filters?

Mike GYesterday on the Carefree Highway in Arizona, a biker with tattoos, earrings and a beard that evoked Ho Chi Minh, slammed into an SUV that had apparently run a stop sign. To anyone who hadn’t talked to, engaged, or hired Michael Gonnella because of the way he looked, yesterday they lost that opportunity to know a peaceful man of heart, love, desire, and undying loyalty to his family and friends.

Going forward, we’d all be better off if we all just think a little different.

2 Comments leave one →
  1. August 5, 2013 9:31 am

    We are hardwired to look at physical appearances.

    In shameless self-reference, please read my essay on the topic: Done in Seven Seconds at


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